“inside out means to start first with self; even more fundamentally, to start with the most inside part of self — with your paradigms, your character and your motives….. if you want to have a happy marriage, be the kind of person who generates positive energy and sidesteps negative energy rather than empowering it. if you want to have a more pleasant, cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, empathetic, consistent, loving parent. if you want to have more freedom, more latitude in your job, be a more responsible, a more helpful, a more contributing employee. if you want to be trusted, be trustworthy. if you want the secondary greatness of recognized talent, focus first on primary greatness of character.” 7 Habits (42,43)

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