“inside out means to start first with self; even more fundamentally, to start with the most inside part of self — with your paradigms, your character and your motives….. if you want to have a happy marriage, be the kind of person who generates positive energy and sidesteps negative energy rather than empowering it. if you want to have a more pleasant, cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, empathetic, consistent, loving parent. if you want to have more freedom, more latitude in your job, be a more responsible, a more helpful, a more contributing employee. if you want to be trusted, be trustworthy. if you want the secondary greatness of recognized talent, focus first on primary greatness of character.” 7 Habits (42,43)

this is “man in the mirror”-status

Listen to This

“to relate effectively with a wife, a husband, children, friends, or working associates, we must learn to listen. and this requires emotional strength. listening involves patience, openness, and the desire to understand — highly developed qualities of character.” – 7 Habits (37)

“but knowing i need to listen and know how to listen is not enough. unless i want to listen, unless i have the desire, it won’t be a habit in my life. creating a habit requires work in all three dimensions.” – 7 Habits (47)

i am constantly working on my ability to listen. i promise to begin every conversation by saying (in my head), “i want to understand.”


the first Bootcamp was a success! thanks for all of those who came through. thanks for all the support and positive FB messages & texts. none of this would be possible without your support!

today was a big day for me so thanks to those who shared this with me; i appreciate you guys very much and i can’t thank you enough. if you couldn’t make it this time, come through next saturday!

a few words on success:

this bootcamp was a success because it was in line with what i want in life. i want to bring people together and have fun. i want people to be happy. i want to motivate people. and i want people to be healthy. and i feel that i did that today. this is how i will always define success. its not about money, its not about status, its not about fame. its about answering your calling and being around positive people.

thanks again everyone! #ypowr

Who Do You Want To Be?

Stop being a victim of the conditions. Stop with the blaming, the pointing fingers and the “only if” mindset. The way you are right now, is the way you’d be even if the conditions were more favorable. Decide who you want to be, truly understand what it means to be that person and be that person every second of every day of your life, starting today.

Be that person for you and your family and for no one else.

“The only man I look up to and respect is the family man. The man who treats his wife like a queen, the man who supports his kids no matter what, and the man who understands that family, above everything else, is the most important blessing of all His blessings.” – me

NEW: Saturday Partners Training! Beginning June 25th

A great way to strengthen your health and your relationship, Saturday Partners Training is an outdoor group exercise workshop intended for couples/partners/best friends looking for a great workout every Saturday morning. No prior fitness experience is necessary. Check out the Saturday Partners Training page for more info!

Keep On Walking

“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.” – Buddhist Proverb


the question here is, “how do we know if we are facing the right direction?”

i believe i am facing in the right direction because before every decision i make, my family, my friends and my Lord fill my mind; they influence every decision i make.

if my family, my friends and my Lord are all i see, then i know i am facing the right direction. keep moving, stay humble, and thank your Lord.

How to Prepare for a Vegas Trip (for guys)

so in about an hour, i will be on the road with my dear cousins. our destination? Las Vegas, holler! i decided to post this because i just packed for a 5 day trip in 15 minutes. while i was packing, i was thinking about all the “prep” i needed to do for this trip and realized that it only took about 15.25 hours and 4 seconds. so here’s how i prep’d for this Vegas trip:

1) the day before you leave, pay all your bills (even the ones that aren’t due until the end of the month) = 1 hour

2) have lunch and/or dinner with your girlfriend (allow her to give you all the “death stares” she possibly can) = 2 hours

4) watch The Hangover = 2 hours (3 hours if you watch it with your girlfriend, because she will pause the DVD a couple times, turn to you and say something like “you see that, you’re not doing that…. ok?….. OK!!)

3) go to sleep by 7pm the night before, because the party starts right when you set foot on the plane or when the car starts moving in the direction of Vegas (if you’re driving) = 10 hours

4) pack = 15 minutes

5) leave all your credit cards at home = 4 seconds

so that’s how i prep’d for my Vegas trip, i’ll update this if i find that i missed some things. Viva Las Vegas!!!! see you guys on Monday